How do I influence an 18 year old to stop smoking weed?
It REALLY hurts to see him do it and no matter how much people tell him almost everyday to stop because it can really mess up his brain he won't listen. He's really athletic so smoking can really hurt that. Please tell me what I can do to get him to stop.
Making it sound worse than it is isn't going to help you. Plying him with the reason that it will hurt his athletic performance because it's "smoking" isn't going to make him stop because he probably knows that's bull.
People who smoke pot don't inhale enough smoke to cause lung damage-because the amount of smoke is less than cigarettes, and a joint does not contain the same carcinogens that cigarettes do, like tar, etc. He probably feels like you are just nagging. No one has EVER died from smoking pot. It isn't a gateway drug, it doesn't make you crazy or some kind of junkie, it doesn't cause lung cancer, it's not unhealthy, and you can smoke it and still have a normal and productive functioning lifestyle.
There is only one downfall to marijuana-and that is the fact that it's illegal. I for one don't agree with that particular law, and think alcohol is much worse. But if you want to give him a real, legitimate reason to quit, then express your concerns about that aspect of it. If he's an athlete, then there is a distinct possibility that he will be drug tested and not be able to play sports anymore. He could get caught buying or possessing it, and do jail time and/or have to pay fines and do community service and be on probation. Even minor offenses can be serious trouble in certain states-a real bummer that throws a wrench in a normal 18 year olds party plans, not to mention a criminal record that sticks with you.
Do a little research on the consequences of being caught with marijuana where you live, and talk to him about that. Make him think about what could REALLY happen-don't just repeat what people who know NOTHING about pot have to say. The old 1950's "pot makes you crazy" movie lines and myths aren't going to work on someone who already knows better! In the end, he's of legal age and a man-and you can't make him stop if he doesn't want to. All you can do is shoot straight, lay reality on the table, and hope that he values his freedom, money, and privilege to play sports enough to decide to quit on his own.